Thank you for your reply, but it was not exactly what I was looking for. I AM trying to be tactful, hence my request for advise. If you could tell me a little more about how men's sexual health, behaviors and desire changes in their 40s, I hope and think I'll be able to understand him more, and take actions in a subtle way.
And our sexlife is currently great, I also mentioned that the communication is good above. But as I've always been with men around my age, I find the three points mentioned in the above question something that differs from my earlier experience. By expanding my knowledge in these areas, I think will make me more confident, understanding and explore the challenges in better ways.
Thanks in advance,
Your experience with your new lover is quite common in many of the couples that I have worked with that have similar spans of ages. In some cases 15 years is not a big difference sexually for, lets say a 45 year old woman and a 60 year old man, however when the difference is between a 25 year old woman and and a 40 year old man it can be a big deal....especially if your sexual appetite has been built with men closer to your age who may have more stamina and other differences that occur between a 25 and 40 year old man that can effect his sex life i.e. less life stress, more time, more energy, less pass relationship baggage...... Although it is going to be important for you to show and tell him what you like sexually, it is also important for you to evaluate your true wants and needs and examine the benefits that come with dating an older man.....is there less drama, more financial stability, more interesting conversations, more wisdom, interesting experiences and perspectives? At the end of the day, how do these things measure up? Many would say those things are secondary to good sex, however many more might say I don't want to lose those other things I value in him so I'm okay with just okay sex.... You are the ultimate judge but keep in mind...you said you're in love, that sounds like a pretty big deal and I wonder if the younger guys were able to make you fall in love so quickly and deeply. This guy really must be doing something right that you like a lot, continue to enjoy and value those things about him.