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I can imagine how frustrating this situation must be for you. Why do I say frustrating?
Because it isn't a sign of emotional unavailability; it is a sign of emotional neediness. Here he is establishing a long term relationship with you, his future, and he spills his heart out to you about his lingering pain of having to leave his past and mend. That has to be frustrating that he doesn't realize as a man that you, as a woman, are going to be hurt.
And further, that he needs to cry on your shoulder about it, so to speak. Well, it's not a fatal mistake on his part, but it is something for you to keep an eye on.
That he is feeling every so often the after shocks of the break up with his ex is not an unusual thing. That's common and okay. That he is taking it this seriously is a bit off. That he's wearing it on his sleeve with you is the bad judgment part. So, as I said, keep an eye on it and see if he makes a habit of being emotionally unable to pull apart.
But as of now, let it go and just keep watchful. And the hope is that this will fade into the past and he will be fully in the present. With you.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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