She may find the act of flirting very uncomfortable and be acting out of shyness. A lo t of women find the art of dating very uncomfortable. When someone is shy or uncomfortable the will avoid direct eye contact. She may find you very interesting so she approaches a sexual type talk but is not confident enough to actually ask you out or show the initiative. Many women are conditioned to date when and how the guy directs them to. It is very common to want to approach a man sexually or romantically but not bring herself to do so. If she is shy then this adds to her inability to approach you directly. If she is bringing up sexual subjects and being friendly I would avoid the other behaviors and just ask her out within a conversation so that you know once and for all. If she wants to date you she will respond. Then you won't get this inconsistent behavior. You can lose by pursuing her and you wont' gain anything by overthinking. Ask her for a lunch date and you get your answer.
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A few other questions if you don't mind. Why does she keep bringing up doing things with her girlfriend but never ask me along? She has said before she feels comfortable with me so why not ask me along? I've met her girlfriend. This is the one that said I was special. It's almost as if she's teasing me. Why do this? I am baffled. Also, during our conversations alot of times she will look me directly in my eyes especially when discussing sex. I feel as though her eyes are piercing me. They look very intimating and sexual (I'm not joking. Almost mesmerizing). I am almost spell bound by her stare. Never felt this way before.
I had asked her last week to go out. She said she had family plans she couldn't cancel. I said to her nicely I wouldn't ask her again if she didn't want to go out. I never pester girls. She gave a huge smile tossed her head to the side and said that wasn't it. It was one of those girlish grins I remember from high school.
Again, do you believe this to be shyness? She used to come up to me all the time before the misunderstanding. Now she will leave the club without saying anything to me. I have to approach her.I guess the ultimate question is does she like me and is shyness holding her back? I just can't tell.
If there is one sure fire way to tell what she is thinking how can I get it out of her?
When someone is shy they often drop hints but can't bring themselves to ask someone directly to spend time together She fits the scenario of someone who is shy and almost uncomfortable. It is okay to find a physical attribute appealing. As far as asking her out she didn't say no. That is a good sign. Instead she had an obligation. Her response to you says ask me again. With that comment I believe she is shy. Body language says everything. Flirting says even more. The only way to know what she is thinking is to ask. Find a quiet spot for just the two of you and tell her you like her and if she feels the same. Then this is known and you can come from an open place
Thank you. Excellent advice. Can I ask one more thing? If someone is shy and uncomfortable how can they discuss sex so openly? I am shy at times myself and the last thing, even being a guy, would to say some of the things she said to me. Also, the picture she showed me of the much younger guy, was that done just to arouse me? There was no reason for her to mention that guy to me let alone show me a picture of him. To me he was very young and unattracive (not that I rank guys) She could have pulled that picture out of the pile. I didn't need to see it. Did she intentionally want me to see it?
Again, thank you. Your advice has been excellent.
Really I do mean thank you very much. You gave great insight. Being a guy I think more methodically than emotionally.
So to some things up, you believe she avoids me because of shyness? It hurts when she leaves and doesn't even bother to acknowledge me. She will smile and talk with others but will almost run from me at times. Not exaggerating. I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable. That is not my goal.
BTW, I ranked you excellent.