It sounds like he cares about you in some fashion. If he wanted to be friends he wouldn't be kissing you and talking about his being sexual. He may care but just may be feeling that this is a barrier in some way. The only way to find out if you want to know is to ask. If you have fallen for him than you may have to start a conversation that includes how he feels about you. You don't gain anything by guessing. He is giving you signs that there is something there so introduce a conversation that tells him how you feel (not everything up front) and how he feels. If he is very sexual he may be showing some signs that he wants to know you in a sexual way. Sometimes we are afraid to talk about our feelings but by keeping them to ourselves we don't get the information we need. Just approach the subject and see where it goes.
I'm sorry, maybe i did not say it correctly but he said he was not very sexual and has even been called a dud in bed by some or a woman. Do you have any suggestions on what to ask him without telling everything upfront. He has been single for over 10 years now....very controlling women in past marriages.......i sure don't want to scare him away.....he did say he had a wall around his heart...wanted more at first with me..then just friends....is it possible he is getting more than friend feeling for me and is scared and doesn't know how to handle it? Thank-you i have told him i care for him more than friendship but I don't push it
you are right..i do not keep bring up about where we are going but try to just be myself but I know I have to do something...he is all i can think about..I try really hard to just keep affirming his good qualities and try to let nature takes it's course. I am so afraid of being rejected...My husband passed away 2 years ago and it would be like another death to me..I have dated but I have fallen in love with this man.