Hopefully this is the last time I will need to write you regarding advice for this situation. I have contacted a psychologist who I will be seeing in the next week to help me though this situation.
However... until then I was hoping you could help me with my current feelings.
I am no longer depressed... I am angry. I am guess this is having to do with the process of grief. which is good... although the relationship is only over in my head at the moment.
She has moved into her own apartment as of Sunday. She has yet to stay a night there however, we are both here now. She has moved virtually all of her belongings out of my house, at my request, she asked to leave something's there and I told her it was too hard to see them.
I have been distant and physically not reachable nor open to really talking until yesterday. She came home from a trip and my son was supposed to be staying the night. He ended up staying with his mom instead but she did not know that... her intent was to stay at her apartment since he was going to be at my house. Well since he did not stay at my house, which I let her know, she came over. I was really very angry at the thought of her staying at the apartment for the first night only because my son was with me. It was truly the first night where what she had been saying, asking for, was actually happening and despite our talks, the lease, her moving... I honestly could not believe it was happening.
We argued, her opinion:
This is not "tragic" and I am making too big of a deal out of it.
That I have no right to be mad at her.
That I keep asking / discussing the same things and expecting a different result is "exhausting".
That anyone in her situation would not want to be with my children.
That we are not breaking up, that she loves me deeply, that in 6 months she will have charted her life and then can come back to me as a "full" person.
I am mad, and have a right to be... she left me because she can not be with my kids and left me when she knew I was having a very hard time managing being away from my kids so much...
I don't see how 6 months will magically make her like spending time with the kids...
Why couldn't she work on developing her own life while living with me? take classes, study for grad school... etc..
She is easily buying big ticket items, bed, tv, all new dishes... duplicates of everything we own... what happens in 6 months.. (she says oh we will just put it in the guest room) BS it seems that she is planning for the long haul
I asked her if she just wanted to break up, she said NO she is trying to prevent a break up by leaving...
I am angry, sad and alone. I know it is difficult for you to answer this with only one side of the conversation but know I am giving you 100% accurate info.
Is she completely off her rocker thinking this scenario will work, is totally normal and potentially just a 6 month stint?
Is she just pulling me along... hoping for the best of all worlds, manipulating me by not allowing me to be angry or sad with out her getting upset?
what to do....