Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am very sorry to know about your situation. The scenario you depict shows chronic verbal - emotional abuse.
No form of abuse is acceptable, even less coming not from a stranger but from your very spouse. You seem to be a very responsible husband and father, it doesn't seem that you are neglectful at home. Many times wives could get very frustrated and abusive when they feel overwhelmed by house chores and raising children responsibilities. I do not know if this is your case, from your message it doesn't seem so.
If you are a caring parent and husband, respect your family and do your best without engaging in any form of abuse or neglect to trigger the abuse you receive from wife, then it would be clear she needs to acknowledge she has personal problems leading to this abusive approach, one that does undermine your mental and emotional health, your daughter's well-being and her own health.
She needs then to take full responsibility for her feelings and actions, and the abuse. Coming to terms with the fact that she has been unable to eliminate verbal-emotional abuse, should lead to look for professional psychotherapy in order to work on making necessary changes.
Healthy and fulfilling relationships and families, require mutual respect, understanding and support, never abuse nor neglect. Once she start working on her personal issues she would be able to participate and benefit from marriage counseling, to learn how to communicate, cope and share in acceptable and healthy ways. You would learn to set healthy and clear boundaries and limits, assertively confronting abusive and destructive behaviors, in order not to enable further abuse and to promote a healthy and fulfilling marriage.
Does it make sense?