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I broke up with my girl frind so many times. now i want her

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I broke up with my girl frind so many times. now i want her back. she is see someone put said she still loves me. she just dont want to get hurt by me again. she said she hasn't sleep with him because all she can think about is me. i love her so much whet can i do
Right now you have patience that is going to mean more to her than telling her you won't do it again. You have to regain her trust but the important fact is that she still wants to be with you. She is just scared that you will repeat the same mistake. So try to win her back over a period of time where she sees that you can keep your word. You can pursue her but you may not get her to forgive you right away. If she hasn't slept with the other guy than she probably is not interested. Ask her forgiveness and then show her that you can be the dependable guy she needs. When you are there for her over a period of time she will probably take notice. Winning her back takes a solid plan of being kind, keeping in contact, working on your mistakes and reminding her that you love her.
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Customer: replied 4 years ago.
how do i show her i'm dependable
Just show her over time that you are there for her and want this relationship. When you do this over a period of time she will see that you are there for her and want to have a stable relationship. That all comes with time and effort
Customer: replied 4 years ago.

you say to show her i love and be there for her. how do i do that?

Be romantic and find creative ways to show her - flowers, phone calls, dates, love notes. Whatever you decide would fit her personality. Sometimes just romance can win a person's heart. Don't be afraid to think outside the box
Customer: replied 4 years ago.

sunday she put a temporary restraining order on me. We went to court to day. the juge didn't grant it. she said we have to much love for each other. we walked out together. when we got out side che cryed on my shoulder. i held her for a long time. then we went and sat on a bench and talked kissed and huged. she said i guess it was ment to be. I dont no what to do now . call or leaver her alone. help!

If she filed a restraining order and then does all of what you describe right after she either doesn't know what she wants or she is playing games. Either way this is not a positive way for a relationship to progress. It has to be based on communication and consistency. I would not call her unless you want to be a part of this pattern.
Customer: replied 4 years ago.
i just tajked to her and she is coming over tonight. and said she wants to spend the rest of her life with me. as i
If she wants to spend the rest of her life then she doesn't do it by filing for a restraining order. Be sure that what she says matches what she does.
Customer: replied 4 years ago.
I guess you have to no her.
Customer: replied 4 years ago.
I guess you have to no her.she has never lied to me about anything
Probably so. In the end it is your decision and you know what you want and how you feel. Just be careful
Customer: replied 4 years ago.
Well she came over last night. and we made love for hours. I asked her why she put the reastrinting order on me. she said if it was greated she would never talk to me again if it wasn't she would spend the rest of her life with me. I said it was so week it would of never held up i did do anything wrong. she said i no that was what i was hopping for. i said you make me nuts . belieave it or not i really love this girl
You can love her but it seems she has no trouble playing with your life. It is not healthy to need a third party decide if you have or have not done something destructive or angry. I would have problems trusting someone who needs validation as to whether you should have contact with each other. Just think about what that means
Customer: replied 4 years ago.
maybe your right. she came over again last night. after going out with her new boyfriend. And she made love to me again. that was last night to day she change her number. i called her at work and she wont talk to me.i'm so hurt what did i do? what should i do. i really want her back
Customer: replied 4 years ago.

It''s her kids there the ones that change the number and she just goes along with it. just like the restraining orde she said that was her ideal ether. please help me what shoutl i do?


 

Even if she did just go along with these things she is an adult and she didn't fight against them either. These are very serious signs that one wants to distance themselves from other person. She had a role! She seems to be comfortable sending mixed signals and that is big trouble.
Customer: replied 4 years ago.
so why did she make love to me . and why don't she give my key back. house key. I'm asking you what should i do ?
She probably has feelings for you but if these feelings are so confusing for her this may lead to a relationship that isn't genuine. If she is willing to take negative actions so easily then it is only a matter of time until she gives in to something else. I would suggest that you think about the negativity in this relationship and consider whether the relationship is too costly.
Customer: replied 4 years ago.

today she called me and gave me her new number. she said she was sorry, and if it was between you and her kid s it was going to be you. she ask if she could move back in and she love s me with all her heart. Im going to let her move back in i love her too. and this time i will think brfore i do anything that will hurt her. I was the one that


broke up with her all the time, It will never happen again! I love her. I was married for 20 years and never felt like this about my x wife . I love this girl.

If you love her then treat her like you do. Actions speak much louder than words. If you are going to make promises then make sure you live up to them. This may be the fresh start that you wanted.
Customer: replied 4 years ago.
thank you. and i never love anyone as much i will take care of her. and treat her with love.
Best wishes

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