hi i need help with a situation with a friends son , he has begun to show me some welcome attention as i didnt get much from my husband. he is a very nice lad and begun to come out with me and my friend on several occasions then he wantede me too come back to the house . this went on for a while until on a night out he said i looked pretty and when the evening ended he wanted to walk me to my car resulting in a hug and kiss. since then i cant stop thinking about him and he even said he would take me out and now i feel totally used and dont no what to do.
carrying on as normal and then i kept hoping he would take me out and now i just want to see him all the time.
I had a few questions so I can help you further? Are you still with your husband? Also is your son friend of legal age?
yes iam still with my husband and he is 20 but what he does just makes me feel good and i felt flattered.
You mentioned about your husband not giving you much attention, so what is happening is your sons friend is someone that likes going out with you and your friends. You are enjoying each others company. Some times being married for a certain amount of time becomes like a routine. You knew everything about each other there is nothing new that sparks your attention. This is very normal. So when someone comes along that is new, that Wants to spend time with you its new and exciting. But what is happening is you are intrigued by this person because it is new, you can share new stories.But as time passes things become comfortable just like a marriage. I want you to think about your marriage because some times you think you want something and it ends up you dont.you always first have to imagine your life without your husband. You dont want to cause any problems in your marriage. It is ok to have a friend to go out with to dinner. Its easy to act on impulse but I want you to look at the big picture. I want you to really think about how you feel. I am here to help you.
its nice that he wants to come out as afriend but do you think he has feelings for me and how do i control my feelings towards him. i think i might have made a fool of myself
His actions seem too me that he could have feelings for you. You are also experiencing feelings for him as well. Often times once you act on these feeling and you realize that it is not what you wanted. He is friend you are having fun with. Which is ok. But if something more happens then your Risking your marriage and a friendship. A marriage can be new and exciting if you rekindle your love for one another. You and your husband need to remember why you got together and recreate your very first date. This creates memories of your love for each other. Some times people act on their feelings and realize what they did they can never fix. Why dont you ask your husband on a date and recreate some new special moments together.
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