Hi why would a make colleague who I feel out with 2 years ago n now we friends again well were trying to make amends turn against me n try n get me the sack for couple emails, we had messed around before but both with people
Seeking expert testimony is a sign of strength. A personal relationship with a caring professional is proven clinically effectiveDear friend,I am so sorry that this so called friend has turned against you. Obviously this person still harbors anger and resentment towards you and has chosen this fortuitous moment to turn on you and stab you in the back. If it is not too late then ask this person to refrain from trying to get you fired.from your job. This is your sustenance, and is a very hateful act..If you can deny the emails then do so in order to keep your job. Unfortunately there are some people who do not have any feelings for others and you have found such a person in this so-called friend.Try to keep out of this person's way and do your best to carry one with you work.If you need further assistance, i am at your service.Warm regards,Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
Well I will explain some more, I had known him for years n 2 years ago we flirted which never have as he always took mickey out me in nice way, he has partner n young daughter n me partner, one night he came mine n we kissed etc not intercourse. I was confused when saw him next as he was quiet to me n he received an email back then but not from me n accused me, we then fell out, he moved to different site to work for bout 2 years n never talking. Then bout 4 months ago came back n at first he just stared at me loads n loads, I eventually spoke work related n he then responded but very kinda nervous, he normally very arrogant always cheats on his gf so weird. He then offered to help me with some feedback n really put effort in n emailed my home where he apologised for not realising how unwell I had been etc. he works in warehouse me office so I had to see him work related few times n he would keep me talking telling me bout when split with his gf who he slept with I thought that odd? I should go out n have fun in hotel with a man but my partner should move in etc now n bout his daughter n personal life I thought odd after just starting talking? He also stated he did not want us ever falling out again, then he went quieter again n when I saw him downstairs once he goes am going in meeting I said I don't just come n cu n told me what meeting was bout n everything very nice to me, then bout week later when chatting he said his boss had asked y am always seen chatting to him etc n said be careful as he don't want to get in trouble choose my time carefully to come down, then I was told by my manager gossip had started bout us so I sent him email from home to his work asking to meet but just as friends nothing weird as wanted to talk bout things, he didn't reply then I was on hols for bout week so sent him one again as was worried n no reply again, then next day my friend txts me saying kicked. Off he went to my manager reporting me n him n my mate turned up at mine as I had told her few things in confidence n now she thinks I lied bout stuff n me n him don't talk n he calls me stalker, it has calmed down a lot but I don't get y y did he do this y? Did he pretend all along hard to believe or what like me more I don't understand??
Dear friend,This man sounds as if he is very disturbed. That is his problem. You didn't do anything wrong at work that I heard you tell me, and your email was innocent. If your manager asks you why you were spending extra time talking to him, just tell manager that you were worried that this man wanted to hurt himself. You were afraid for his safety and just wanted to do the right thing. Tell him that you didn't know what else to do. You are not a doctor but you are a person who cares about other people.They will probably leave you alone if you tell them that.As far as this man goes, stay away from him. He is just trouble. If you didn't do anything then the management should not even talk to you about gossip.Not everybody is as rational as you are. This man is not rational. He probably likes you, but then again, he probably likes other women too. You would be best to leave him alone and tell management that you concentrate on your work and give them you best time and effort. Be serious and pleasant with them and they will not give you a hard time.I wish you courage and wisdom.Warm regards,Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
But do u think he actually did like me at all and when gossip started he put himself first as not normal behaviour and to say he told me no he didn't want more from which he did not is strange, people say he did like me as fancy and guess when I put in email no he hated it, but why would he do that over gossip? I haven't lost job and nor would have but was asked if we was having affair
Dear friend,By some of his behaviour he seemed that he liked you very much, but he did not want the public attention about it. He is a private person and for some reason he doesn't want others to know about his person or romantic life.You did nothing wrong. Not everyone is as rational as you are. Sometimes when other people act in an odd manner we just cannot understand why. From what you tell me this man just does not act in a rational manner, and if you cannot put up with him you might want to drop him as a friend.I am so glad to hear that you did not lose your job and I am surprised that they asked you if you were having an affair. That doesn't seem proper.I wish you great success in moving forward with your life. Warm regards, Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
But I guess I don't get why if he wanted to be friends with me so much and make all that effort with me, would he just drop me like that n do that, guess feel sad and feel he used me but when he was telling me to cheat on my bf with guys I thought odd, if he cared for me surely he wouldn't had done what he did to me and snitch to my manager about me?My friend who I confided stuff too also came to mine with him and asking why I lied when I didn't I said nothing to protect him but now he don't talk to me says I was a stalker n I feel upset still as he was my friend I thought??What did he want from me??? He now still stares n looks upset when he sees me, I was told by my manager we are to have no communication unless work related. He has made me look very weird n odd n nobody has ever really listened to my side nor him, also he said a girl was interested in him at work n loved to tell me details about it but then at end said he wasn't interested as he back with his gf now but just stared for ages at me. He would only talk loads to me on our own too when we was with others he would ignore me practically and always chat with my friend, I am very confused by him n I guess deep down if he wasn't with his partner me mine we prob wud had meet up but it's odd
Dear friend,Thank you for getting back with me with these details. I agree. It is odd. The truth of the matter is, however, that he has a girlfriend and that you cannot make him change his behaviour. You would probably forget about his quickly when you meet up with some real friends who will treat you normally. I am sorry that a nice young woman as yourself can't be treated with more respect and kindness by someone they are interested in. Perhaps it is time to move forward with your life and forget about people who don't show you much interest beyond occasionally staring at you. You are a lovely person and you will meet others who will value you for who you are. It's time to move forward and leave this man in the past.Warm regards,Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
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Dear friend,Thank you so much for accepting my answers and giving me positive feedback. I wish you great success. You are special and deserve to be treated that way.Warm regards,Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
Hi I wanted to add on that I don't want to date him as am happy but if honest I guess do u think he generally wanted to be friends from what I said or more as we have a past??? N did he snitch on me as he thought people thought something going on so to protect himself in a way??I just feel sad and walked all over as I feel down bout it a lot and no one I can talk too. Do u think he hates me or think am weird why he did it?
Dear friend,I don't think he hates you, nor do I think you are weird. You are a nice, sensitive young lady who just trusted too much.This man is quite immature, and just wanted to tell the "story" about you and him, in his own version. A mature person would have kept his mouth shut.Don't be said just because you were burned by one little immature boy. Move on with your life. You will find others a lot more worthy than him.Warm regards,Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
But why did he do so much for me and really make effort to be friends n tell me private things in his personal life b do that?I feel he does think am weird, he said I was mental as I apparently told someone we was seeing each other when I didnt and also he said he never wanted us to fall out again but he does this??He said he told me he was premiership when he didn't
Dear friend,He liked you then and may still like you now, but he is very immature. He still has some growing up to do. If you want to give him another chance, you can. It is up to you. You can always ask him about how he feels if you are still interested in him. Don't be afraid to talk directly to him. Be nice and don't demand an answer. Whatever he says, you will learn something.Best wishes,Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
He is 32 years old n very arrogant type he thinks lot women like him but he different with me it's just strange but u say like do u mean friend or more? Do u think he wanted more n was playing safe n then when I emailed as gossip going on he blew as he didn't want people suspecting anything?? But I daren't talk as he may accuse me of stalking but I guess I feel hurt as a friend wouldn't do that surely?Sorry I guess I wana know why he did it to me answers
He may be a narcissist, and if that is the case, he doesn't care about anyone else's feeling. He cannot understand that others even have feelings. You know how a moth is attracted to a flame, and keeps coming close until it is burned. You must fly away from this flame for it will only hurt you.Best,Elliott Sewell
Guess am confused really it don't make sense how he is as he said today why did I email loads it ruined us n he really wanted to be friends n meant what he said just confusing.Others say he clearly had feelings do u think so?
If he wants to see you socially and you want to see him, then just make arrangements at the appriate time and go out with him. Wondering about what he is feeling will not get you the answer. From what you say I think he has feelings for you. Try going out with him. You have nothing to lose and lots to gain.I wish you GREAT fortune.Warm regards,Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
Thank you so much for accepting my answer and for the high rating you gave me.I wish you overwhelming good fortune.Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
Thank you so much. I wish you great success.Warm regards,Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC