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I had a break up with a woman that I was romantically interested

 
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I had a break up with a woman that I was romantically interested in...we saw each other over 4 months...she had gotten out of a bad relationship only a couple months before we started seeing each other. My attraction for her grew, she kept being hot and cold..She finally told me that she no longer had an attraction for me and wanted to see someone else. This hurt but I had no choice but to respect her wishes. We were on a social website together, I made the mistake of contacting someone she had also seen before that she was friends with in there. I asked them to contact me because we had both been used by her. She found out and defriended me. I am afraid she will not want to have anymore contact with me..I did this out of hurt at the time and regret it. How to convince her to contact me again? I really feel bad for doing this and wish I could make up for.

 



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She will not return my emails or text messages and after deleting me in the social website I know the other person must have told her I contacted them and what I said...I was just hurt and at the time felt used

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Expert:  psychlady replied 281 days and 5 hours ago.

It can certainly be understood that people do hurtful things when they end a relationship. Feelings can be intense and this is accompanied by a need to hurt the other person. It is admirable that you know you were acting out of pain. I would normally say that a not of apology may allow her to see why you did this and that you truly regret it. However if she is not responsive to you in any way than there is little you can do to make amends. She has to be in a place where she wants to accept your apology. Otherwise you are wasting time with a situation that you cant' fix on your own. I would accept that you acted hastily and move on until she is ready to talk.

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