My name is XXXXX XXXXX I hold a Clinical Master's Degree in Social Work with a focus on Adult Mental Health. I currently provide general Life Coaching.
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Unfortunately it would be difficult for me to tell you whether or not you should divorce your husband of 30 years. He has done many wrongs to you an your children, and because he has shown the behavior again, I would think it is difficult to forgive him.
You say you are no longer living as a married couple. I am guessing that there is no longer physical intimacy in the relationship. I would suggest that you discuss with your husband some options that would alleviate the stress and burden on you and your family. Of purse divorce is always an option, but it doesn't sound like you want to divorce him. You can always try a trial separation to see if that is what you want.
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