Have Relationship Questions? Ask a Counselor for Answers ASAP
Welcome to JustAnswer! I am a Licensed Professional Counselor. Please note, this is not therapy, but advice. I do hope I can help you though. I am sorry your are hurting do so badly. My guess is she might be hurting too. She maybe has had difficulties in relationships starting at a very young age and now is scared of of developing a long term relationship.
The real question is, why are you drawn to such a person. It sounds like you have been hurt multiple time in past relationships yourself. Some people are drawn to this sort of relationship. They often have experienced hurtful or abusive relationship at a young age as well. You may be trying to fill a void left in your youth.You need to maybe get past your own past hurts before you can have the confidence and clarity of vision to seek out a healthy relationship,
There is hope for you. Search your past for issues that might need to be resolved. First of all, break it of with this lady. You two definitely do not seem good for each other. Give yourself a chance to start anew. Then move forward from there...