We have both been working hard on the marriage, we had counselling for about 9 months.
3 weeks ago I had a brief instant message exhchange with the 3rd party, we are still at the same work place, our paths very rarely cross. I saved part of that exchange 'I still miss you.. in every way.'. My husband came across it 2 nights ago as he still checks my phone and I didn;t realise it showed in the email account on the phone without putting in the password. Needless to say he is very upset, doesn't believe anything I say, wonders what else was said in the conversation, takes him back to all the pain of 2 years ago. We have really started to make progress recently.
The exhannge was totally out of the blue. I don;t have regular contact and nothing has happened with the 3rd party since it all came out. However, my husband doesn;t believe that. but its more about the fact that I kept the message so still means something to me. What I need to know is pracitcal advice. What is my position given i'm the guilty party ?