You do have a very important decision to make. The best way to approach such an important decision is to weigh the pros and cons of each person. Start with the qualities that you treasure the most and see which woman fits the needs that you have. This means that you have to put your own needs first in order to decide which lady fills the bill that you want for your future. I know you were married but take all guilt out of the equation. Do what is best for you not what is easiest. And above all else be honest with each lady and with yourself. If you feel that the new relationship is best for you then respect your wife by being honest. You can clear your head and make your decision based on what you need and what you want. You cannot let obligation dictate your choice. If you do this successfully you will know the answer.
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