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Thank you for your advice. I think my feelings for this man is so strong that I had to see him. I went to see him last night and he told me that he feels the same way about me. That he still really likes me and love seeing me. He said his feelings towards me haven't changed, but from the beginning there were always two sides to the relationship. On the one hand everything is perfect and on the other hand he doesn't think we are good for each other. When I asked him what he means, he couldn't really give me an answer. I told him how I feel about him and that I missed him the weekend. He said he feels the same way about me. I discussed with him that I’m extremely upset over the way he handled things on Sunday and that he should not have convinced me last Saturday to try again and a week later he ends it. And again he replied and said he meant every word he said and his feelings about me haven’t changed. I asked him when did he change his mind about the relationship and he said the last time he saw me. Now again that I find strange, because I saw him last on Wednesday and everything was great. The next morning he texted me a joke, and in the afternoon he asked me to come meet him and his mom for dinner. As I said, I unfortunately couldn't make it. And on Friday I didn't hear from him. He kept saying last night that he still feels the same way about me, but when I told him that I missed him, he didn’t reciprocate. He said that he was very shocked when I ended it last Saturday. He said he would like to stay friends and be on good terms. I ended the meeting and when we got up, I looked at him and said that I still care about him and still want to see him. And I said I think he feels the same way. He then said, let’s give it a few days. He then kissed me and I left. I’m not sure what to make of it. Maybe I’m wrong but I did get the feeling we feel the same way about each other. Is there anything more I can do at this point to get him back or do you think he was just being decent? I’m just struggling to understand that he would try for 3 months to convince me to be with him. Ask me out so often and every chance he gets tell me how much he cares about me.
He might feel as much care for you as you do him right now. I am just not sure he is as committed to making it work. Really, if you do want to give it a try, you do as he asked. Give him a few days and see if he calls. Do not try to convince him of anything. He knows how to get hold of you. If he doesn't contact you in a set amount of time, then you have your answer. If he does, you go from there, Do not pursue him though. If you do, that is the standard you are setting for the entirety of your relationship. my guess is, he will contact you, but there is no guarantee.