I am sorry. It seems you are evidently not satisfied with my answer. The answer I gave you was based on my experience and the information you provided. Please let me know if you have any further questions or additional information that might clarify the situation a bit more.. I really do want to be a help to you. Thank you!
As long as you are there to rescue her, she will continue to feed that fear. I wish I could give you more, but in the end she must make the choice. In the beginning you labelled this a love triangle. You were correct in that label. This triangle is actually cyclical though. Until someone breaks the cycle, it will likely continue to perpetuate. As difficcult as it is to swallow, you are likely the one to break the cycle. Until you do, it will likely continue as is.
Your very welcome! Please understand, though, In order for me to be compensated for my time, you must give me a positive rating at eanswer's prompting. It is confusing. They have changed it a couple times recently, so I am not exactly sure how it works from your end. If you do not wish to pay me, that is ok. At least request your deposit back. After 30 days, I do believe it is forfeited.