My name is XXXXX XXXXX I hold a Clinical Master's Degree in Social Work with a focus on Adult Mental Health. I currently provide general Life Coaching.
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Ok. I am not certain whether Mark knows that you spoke with someone higher than him for feedback on the error that he made, but I would suggest that you begin the relationship with a clean slate. I am not certain if your agency has a standard of practice regarding how often a regular supervision session is scheduled, but I think it best that you discuss with Mark during a formal supervision session your concerns with what he did prior to being hired as your supervisor.
I would suggest you speak with him in private, and make certain you respect the chain of command and hierarchy. Some agencies/companies place great emphasis on the chain of command, and many companies/agencies expect that you speak with your direct supervisor about an issue before going to someone other than your direct supervisor.
I see that you are offline. I will switch to a Q&A format, and you can ask additional questions and voice concerns there. I will also follow up with you in a couple days if I don't hear from you.
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Friday, November 18, 2011 2:44 PMEST
Thanks for your question and good afternoon.
Why not tell your supervisor here that the big boss asked you to keep the discussion confidential and to refer any questions to him.And consider a short memo to the big boss confirming that you understood your conversation was to be confidential and that you advised anyone with questions to direct those to him.
I agree that this was intended to be a confidential and private conversation with big boss and it ought ot remain that way.
Your supervisor may not like it but he can take it up with big boss if he has questions here.
They cannot take adverse action against you for such a position especially if you e-mail the big boss here that you have done so.
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Unless the big boss authorizes you to discuss the matter this is the way in my mind to force supervisor to take it up with the big boss.
And besides as you state she reviewed other sources in reaching the decision that was made.
And I do believe as I think you do that the big boss here intended this to be a confidential conversation and not discloseable to others.unless he tells you otherwise.
Hmm...how about this, "Dear boss, the conversation I had with BIG BOSS was a confidential and private one. Please direct any questions to her. I have told her of my position on this" (I'll email BIG BOSS and tell her my position before emailing boss).... Another thing, when boss responded to me, he cc'd his demand to his immediate supervisor, the team leader, and others (but not BIGBOSS) and demanded a response. I plan to only respond to him and the team leader. Make sense?
This is a good response and allows you to respond here and maintain privacy of the conversation.I wish you good luck.
This is a good way to deal with all of this and a logical way to do it.
Thanks for letting me chat with you and I hope this resolves the matter.
Friday, November 18, 2011 4:06 PMEST
I have a problem here...BIGBOSS needs to be able to speak to others (with discretion) regarding our conversation (otherwise, she cannot effect change within the organization. For instance, she should be able to talk about my written dissent and reasons for dissention). The final deal: I don't want to talk to my boss about the conversation but I want BIGBOSS to have wide discretion regarding what to discuss (I trust her).
How can I make this work?
Friday, November 18, 2011 4:34 PMEST
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Friday, November 18, 2011 5:00 PMEST
Here is what I sent to BIGBOSS already:
I will respond to my boss by indicating our conversation was confidential and he can direct questions to you.
(I’m trying to give you broad discretion while placing a limit on my own speech about our conversation…tricky).
Here is what I plan to send to my boss:
(Rather than including a large number of people in this dialogue, I am responding directly to you. You may forward this response if you wish to do so.)
Friday, November 18, 2011 5:08 PMEST
Friday, November 18, 2011 5:20 PMEST