Been dating a man for four years and overnight he decides it's not for him and just leaves, saying the chemistry left, overnight? We had just come back from a 3 week vacation. I'm shocked, saddened, and most of all feel physically I'll.
I cleaned up ran some errands, trying to add some normalcy to this day however, I feel very weak. I cried a lot yesterday, talked to many sympathic friends.
Hi. Welcome. I am a Licensed Master Social Worker with more than 20 years experience working with individuals and families on a variety of issues.
I am so sorry to hear of this and sadly it is not all that uncommon....a wonderful vacation and then out of the blue a very strange decision and you are left feeling as devastated as you are.
and you are entitled to all of those feelings. It is out of the blue without much care toward you and your feelings.
how was it left?
I agree but often it is used instead of talking about the real feelings and issues that are going on for him and clearly something is.
I would not reach back out....he has not given you the time and care to talk about anything and the abruptness of it forces you to deal with it on your own. So the thing to focus on now is you and only you.
I would let this simmer and see what unfolds.
but the only thing i am concerned for is you and what will help you at this moment...and not being physically ill and emotioanlly devastated.
are you seeing my responses/ I keep getting your same one.
please let me know you are seeing my responses.
are you seeing my responses?
ok because your beginning response keeps coming to me over and over along with a new line each time at the end.
I do like what your son said to him and it was also unfair of him to involve your son in that way. I would let him come to you and ask for his things and schedule a time to come get them.
your son sounds terrific.
so lets focus on that and you and the other areas you are blessed. I am disappointed as well that after 4 years he would not have more care in his ending with you.
Are you able to eat anything?
It is so very painful and i am glad you have reached out here. Would you have the desire to see someone face to face for counseling to get you through this very rough space and deal with all that you are feeling?
I know it is not easy. I would like to help you find someone to talk to. Would you like my assistance with that?
I think face to face in person would be very beneficial for you
where are you located? I can search using your zip code if I dont know anyone personally in your area.
ok give me one moment while i look I am still here with you in chat.
Here is one. http://www.fulllifetherapy.com/
and one more. http://www.libertypdx.com/
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ok there should be a tab to rate me if you would click that and offer that rating that would be very helpful. thanks so much
yes please do. sometimes it takes a few times. I am sorry for that technical issue.
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