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I am really struggling to cope. I am a 46 year old woman in a 10 year relationship. I own and manage several properties, it is hugely demanding and unpredictable. My son, who is 16, is a successful athlete and this involves a lot of travelling around taking him to coaching and competitions. On top of these time pressures we are having some building work done at home at the moment, a lot of it has gone wrong and has had to be ripped out and started again with all the associated mess and cost, the house has been a building site for 5 months now..it is all a nightmare. Somehow I keep going but I feel extreme levels of stress and am so depressed. To the extent I often feel there is no point going on..I feel like this is my life...It wont get better, I don't want to go on like this but I feel there is no escape. I look after my family and do everything I can to make sure their needs are met and they are happy but there is no one there looking after me. Every time i feel ass if i am just getting onto an even keel another big work issue like a tenant leaving, crops up and throws everything off kilter again. My partner dithers about and does help out but only if I ask him and tell him exactly what to do...I can't trust him with a lot of things as he often makes mistakes and forgets things. He takes no responsibility. I don't want to leave him, sometimes there are glimmers of hope that life could be good but recently I can't see any chance of happiness for me. I have just read this back and it sounds like I am moaning on....if I was giving myself advice after reading this I would say leave him (my partner), but, of course, this isn't the whole picture. There is love there but it has got buried under the big rubbish pile that is our life right now! I know there is no easy answer but I could really do with some help right now.

 



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