I have been seeing a woman for almost a year. I recently moved away for my job, but have been trying to make the long distance thing work. I met someone closer to my job. I want to get to know her, but I don't want to hurt the woman I have been seeing. How should I handle this situation?
Try to tell the woman I have been seeing, that I want to slow down. And, that i am not sure I want to be in a committed relationship now
Hello, I'd like to help you with your question.When you want to end a relationship, honesty is the best way to deal with it. When you try to avoid hurting the other person's feelings, it only makes things worse. And they may pick up on what you are doing and feel rejected.To break up with your girlfriend, make sure you do it face to face. Over the phone or even a text makes you appear like you do not care about her. If your relationship is ending on good terms, then she will appreciate that you took the time to talk to her. Maybe not now, but when she is feeling better.When you meet with her, make sure you pick a private place so if she is upset, she feels free to show it. Expect her to cry or maybe be angry. Accept how she feels and give her time to express herself. Try not to judge but just let her talk. Try to let her know how you feel in a gentle way. And be sure to point out that you are doing this because of you, not her. It may be clichéd, but it will reassure her. And do not bring up your interest in the new person. It will only make her feel you cheated on her rather than just moved on. Be sure you stay with her until you feel she is ok. I hope this has helped you,Kate
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