Have Relationship Questions? Ask a Counselor for Answers ASAP
Hi. Welcome. I am a Licensed Master Social Worker with more than 20 years experience working with individuals and families on a variety of issues.
why do you want to and what is preventing you from doing so.
I want to because I feel like Im not happy with him anymore. Its constant arguing and fighting and I really want to just be done with it but every single time I make up my mind to do it, he just completely changes my mind
i've made up my mind a thousand times to do it but i cant
Often in these situations i suggest following your gut but if the complete break doesnt feel right then waht about advocating for some space so that you can see how you feel
I also hear how sure you really are on this and by letting him convince you to stay doesnt honor your truth
i've tried that but he saw it as a complete breakup and he got really really upset and he started to get all emotional and I couldnt do it
I think it is important to see here that you are honoring his needs to the detriment of your own
he needs to get support to deal with his emotions around this
i doubt he would ever do that lol
that is up to him to do that for himself...I am just trying to get you to see how you are sacrificing your needs for his and this isnt healthy for either one of you
yea i get that i guess its just hard to do because we have been together for what seems like forever
yes and because you care for him and i am not suggesting you be callous but at what point do you matter enough to honor your needs?
so do you think thats what i should be remembering when i try to do it? my needs?
they dont seem to matter but from where I sit they do.
you are entitled to be happy and if you arent you are entitled to make decisions that move you closer to feeling happy
yea ok that makes sense
so be supportive and caring but dont lose the support and caring of yourself and that is what has happened here.
ok lol we shall see but thank you
my pleasure. come and request me anytime yo uneed support.
please click accept if i have been helpfulk
sorry for my typos
can I support you any further?
The accept has not gone through. The money you gave was for a deposit and i am only credited when you click accept. But as this chat is still open it reflects that the accept has not gone through.