Hi. Welcome. I am a Licensed Master Social Worker with more than 20 years experience working with individuals and families on a variety of issues.
I think the best thing you can do right now is to continue being steady for her while respecting her space.
She needs this time to feel safe and if you come on too strong you could push her away
I think if you are calm and steady without being overbearing then in time she may miss you and realize she is safe with you
she does like you and you are correct that she is probably scared.
you can let her know by saying to her....I really like you, that is clear. I also know that you are a bit cautious and I understand that. I am here and want to date and get to know each other better. i wont do anything to make you uncomfortable...just know i am here to go as slowly as you need.
and then ask her for her guidance on how to proceed.
can i text you? can I ask you to dinner? I will let you take the lead.
how does that feel for you?
that could feel like too much pressure. read my thoughts above and tell me what you think.
as a woman if I was unsure and scared I would not want the flowers and poems.
but you want to do more...I can tell
I am wondering if you feel that what I suggested isnt enough and you want to do more still...like the flowers
yes but ask her how she would like you to be during this time for her...meaning..."are you okay if I ask you to dinner?"
you want her to know you care but not push her to do more than she is capable now
for me it would feel like too much....I think she knows that....I am leaning more toward being sublte, and comforting in your pursuit.
I know your desire is to tell and show her you are over the moon for her, but she is needing things to be a bit slower and my worry is if you go over the top she will move away from you.
i am glad you are asking...we can all get confused when we feel strongly for someone else.
Be yourself and be the gentleman you are and respect where she is and in time your gentle support of her space can go a long way to having her feel safe with you.
and that can feel a bit scary for anyone even if they havent had some hard times in the past. you are on the right track here.
you feeling okay about things and how to proceed with her?
ahhhh thank you for giving me more info. Yes of course!!!!!
she needs to take things slowly as she has them to think about too
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can I support you anymore now?
you are doing great. I think if you stay calm and steady without going overboard you are on the right track.
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and i am so glad you reached out so we can go through it and I can also share the womans perspective and also the Mom's perspective.
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