yes I had a terrible relationship 25 years ago in college and it is very similar
I am noticing that he is obsessed with his insecurity
I am depression problems. I understand people can be affected by chemical deficiency in behavior. But I don't know if it is treatable and how?
I have talked a lot to him. But he has been changing his mind every 5 hours
One min he says he loves me and he will do what I advice him to do. And he still wants to see me in summer (which I already bought ticket for me and my daughter to visit Paris and S France in his bother)
then after 5 hours he is crying that he can't accept my behavior of dancing with other men (I accepted not to dance any more, which I didn't care because I really love him) and seems communicating with my male friends.
I totally agree with you
He was saying he is normal and I am the bad woman who don;t understand
who is not sensitive enough.
Yes it was the same 25 years ago.
I told him that it is over because he said so many disrespectful things to me (I maybe a mistress of some man)
But then he now says he is so shamed and he talked to his friend and he agrees he should have never said that. And he agreed he needs to be treated. And his father has a similar problem, he dosen't want to become like his father.
My question is why I am willing to help him?
Because he is really my ideal man in a way.
I have been a single mom for 12 years
I was not really attracted by anyone.
I wanted someone to love me and gives me a lot of affection.
I am very tall. He is taller. He is young and good looking like I am.
We have very similar taste in beauty
He has two grown children who I have never met but looks nice
I agree with you
Now I have a plan to go to Paris this summer. since my ticket is not refundable, I was going with my daughter and travel by ourselves and come back.
My daughters ticket is for two weeks but my return ticket is July 3-Aug 26. He says he wants me and he doesn't want me every 6 hours. Almost he is testing me. Then I started to think that I will just spend two months with him in summer and come back and think about it, probably to break up. I don;t know if I should take this risk.
because he agreed that he will start the treatment and he wants to seriously change. He wrote to me this morning but he is not in a normal state of mind. he became so psychotic.
I maybe able to change the date with $500 fee.
25 years ago my boyfriend put me in a serious depression
I don't want that again
I should change my plan and come back with my daughter.
Our plan was that spend in the south of France at his brother for a week with my daughter and his daughter
and my daughter and I will come back to Paris to spend another week
Should I do this two weeks and both of us to come back to NJ? or just plan completely different
I know in one way I want to help him to change (because we talked about his suffering) and another way I know it is better to let it go.
And he says that he wants to break up and he wants to have me in the summer regardless of our future. He is not in a norm.
That;s true. He should be able to change by himself
I know how that's situation is . It is an abusive behavior
I am more clear of what I have to do
I should go to paris with my daughter nothing to do with him
I have somethings in his apartment
is it bad to see him to exchange things ?
Do you think it is dengerous?
I can forget about my stuff. If I were you, what would you do?
he knows the date and airplane
He is an police investigator in Paris.
we should be OK
Thank you so much
You really helped me to organize my thoughts
this is my first visit to this site how can I contact you in the future?
Should I save and exit first before accept?