Hi! Is someone helping you?
I'm Dr. Jackie, and I'm here to help. I see you were online but now are offline. I'm going to switch over to Q&A and try to help.
I am here to help you. I'm Dr. Jackie. I have to go away from my computer for about two hours but will be back on later today and this evening.
For now, to address your concerns, one interpretation for a woman (or man although stereotypically it does seem to be more common that the woman says this) saying she wants to be friends after a month is that she has indeed found another dating partner. Another interpretation might be that while there was an initial attraction, perhaps after getting to know someone a bit better, she could realize that on more important levels such as core beliefs, values, etc. there may not be a strong compatibility.
If this has recently happened to you, and you really want to know her reasons, it wouldn't hurt to call and ask to meet as a friend for coffee and just casually bring it up in conversation, not confrontationally but because you really want to know.
Like I said, I need to step away from my computer for a few hours; but if you do reply and want to discuss this or anything else further, I will be back on later this afternoon and evening East Coast Time.
o why doesn't he just come out and tell me that ? and not beat around the bush ?