Hi. Welcome. I am a Licensed Master Social Worker with more than 20 years experience working with individuals and families on a variety of issues.
I am sorry to hear of your pain. i think the best thing you can do is hold your head high and move on. Bring a freind with you for support to go pick up your things.
Most likely the wife is doing this as a way to deal with her anger toward her husband and he is most likely following along to try and smooth things over with her.
I am sure you have...can you get into some face to face counseling so you can get the support you need to heal from this?
is there anyone you can ask to get there to pick it up since you cant get there?
you may also call the police for help in this matter so that you dont lose your belongings
He status isnt truly important here...what is most important is that you get your stuff and move on from this as it is destroying you and you deserve more
can a friend help you? I would call the police then to ask how this can be handled
If not, then maybe try and reach out to him just to ask him to keep the stuff somewhere else than the street so you can retrieve it when you can
when can you get there?
well will he respond to an email from you?
how is it that you usually communicate?
let me know if i can help you further. If not please click accept.