hi - I just realized the whole note didn't fit...here it is in its entirety

Dan,

I hope this note finds you well. I haven't reached out anymore because I felt like I was chasing you, so we seem to have lost touch. And you were likely too nice to tell me that when I gave you the opportunity. So I know it may seem strange to get a note from someone you only went on two dates with, but I feel like I need to tell you a couple of things.

First, I want to say I'm sorry if I did anything that in some way scared you off or seemed too aggressive. To be honest I've been doing this 'starting over' thing for a couple of years now, and you were the first person that actually gave me butterflies and I felt comfortable with. As a result, I got caught up in it all and I may have told you I liked you too soon, or texted you too much, or who knows what :). Whatever it was - again - I am sorry.

I've also learned over the past couple of years that dating as an adult is so different from when we were in high school. In high school you actually had to talk about why you weren't dating any longer - you couldn't avoid each other because you likely had math or lunch together :) As adults, it seems so different. People just stop communicating with each other. You figure it isn't going to work for one reason or another and you just walk away. I have to say that I've been guilty of that as well. But for some reason, I wasn't ok with letting you just walk away without reaching out to you first. For some reason - you just walking away had an affect on me.

It's funny - when we were at the movies and you were talking about Kayla and some of the guys she would go out with and how you would spot the good ones from the...not so good. I remember sitting there thinking - I bet you can spot a good one, because you are one of the good guys. Dan, I still believe you are one of the good ones and I'm sorry we weren't able to spend more time getting to know each other.

Take care,

~ Carla

Where should I put that? beginning or an add on at the end? I'm totally open to edits :)

....how is this...

Dan, I hope this note finds you well. I haven't reached out anymore because I felt like I was chasing you and you were likely too nice to tell me that when I gave you the opportunity. But I also know how busy you are with work, Ryan, and your friend that is in the hospital. So for a number of reasons, we seem to have lost touch. ...and then the rest?

...eek...I have to go get Nathan on the bus - again - not an emergency...I'll be back in a little while, feel free to drop me out of chat and just use email if that makes it easier for you :)

ok here is the revised version...I added the last part you recommended to the end...if you think it goes best in the beginning...just let me know...and again - I know you may be helping someone else - so no need to rush back to me...we are both 'working'...lol

Dan,

I hope this note finds you well. I haven't reached out anymore because I felt like I was chasing you and you were likely too nice to tell me that when I gave you the opportunity. But I also know how busy you are with work, Ryan, and your friend that is in the hospital. So for a number of reasons, we seem to have lost touch. So I know it may seem strange to get a note from someone you only went on two dates with, but I feel like I need to tell you a couple of things.

First, I want to say I'm sorry if I did anything that in some way scared you off or seemed too aggressive. To be honest I've been doing this 'starting over' thing for a couple of years now, and you were the first person that actually gave me butterflies and I felt comfortable with. As a result, I got caught up in it all and I may have told you I liked you too soon, or texted you too much, or who knows what :). Whatever it was - again - I am sorry.

I've also learned over the past couple of years that dating as an adult is so different from when we were in high school. In high school you actually had to talk about why you weren't dating any longer - you couldn't avoid each other because you likely had math or lunch together :) As adults, it seems so different. People just stop communicating with each other. You figure it isn't going to work for one reason or another and you just walk away. I have to say that I've been guilty of that as well. But for some reason, I wasn't ok with letting you just walk away without reaching out to you first. For some reason - you just walking away had an affect on me.

It's funny - when we were at the movies and you were talking about Kayla and some of the guys she would go out with and how you would spot the good ones from the...not so good. I remember sitting there thinking - I bet you can spot a good one, because you are one of the good guys. Dan, I still believe you are one of the good ones and I'm sorry we weren't able to spend more time getting to know each other. My desire is still to reconnect when things feel more settled but if that is not your desire then I accept that.

Take care,

~ Carla

I am not sending it yet though...I'm not sure when the right time is but I think I should at least wait until it's been a week since I've heard from him...I don't want him to think I jumped to conclusions

thoughts? how long should I wait? Did I tell him enough or too much or not enough about how I felt?

I agree and NO texts between now and then...correct?

lol - I will...but I doubt that will happen

if he texts me, I will not even respond till I talk to you ;)

...I have to wonder what the people on this site think when they read these things from me...they probably think I'm nuts ;)

I've accepted it...I guess I'm sorry that there are other people like me...those poor things...

ok I'm going to save the letter on my laptop and let you go

approximately a million ;)