In continuation with my previous two questions, I did send my (ex) lover an email to say that I did not think it fair for him to keep blowing hot and cold and distant one day and lovely the next. I sent quite a long nice, but to the point email. I then decided I would try to move on without both men, but then yesterday he must have taken on board what I said as he was a different person again. Still no relationship, intimacy but friendship and he asked me to his for coffee, which I stayed half an hour.
I have decided not to get in touch unless I need to, and will let him make the moves now. I just wonder how long it will be, but assume maybe weeks. I have started now to make one or two plans with female friends to get out and move on, so I must be starting to feel better. Its been horrendous.

Already Tried:
giving him space, sorting my own life out without him, concentrating on myself one day at a time and getting my head in to work and my children.