I have been going out with this girl for 19 months i just found out that in the beggining of the relationship she was talking to her ex and kept it from me. If she really was doing nothing wrong then why did she keep it from me.
I ask her about it to explain but it doesnt add up especially how negative she use to talk about and all the times ive asked her its hard for me to belive it just slipped.
Hello. She probably kept it from you because she felt guilty about it. it was probably nothing, but it would have appeared to be something to you or look suspicious, even if nothing was going on. I'm sure it didn't just "slip" but she probably just didn't want to tell you. I'm sure it wasn't anything to be worried about, but she obviously didn't feel comfortable telling you about it. While it was wrong for her to do, I wouldn't worry about it too much. If it was just the beginning of the relationship and it isn't going on right now and you feel you can trust her, try not to look at the past. If you both have a good relationship right now, focus on the future.
The problem is that is that she set the standard of no lying and no tolerance for the opposite sex and even though it was in the beggining she still kept it from me all this time and the only reason i found out is because i was snooping around.
It was wrong of her to do, no doubt about that. She should apologize for sure and you both should discuss it. Why were you snooping around? If she thinks you don't trust her or anything she does, she will be more willing to keep things from you, which is why she may have done it in the first place.