How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask AskJason Your Own Question

AskJason, Relationship Answers
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 39
Experience:  B.A. Psychology
Type Your Relationship Question Here...
AskJason is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

I have had my heart broken a couple times, as well as have

Resolved Question:

I have had my heart broken a couple times, as well as have been cheated on many times, including my best friends being the ones that the girl cheated on me with. Because of this, I have become reclusive, and distrusting, as well as very protective of my romantic heart. How do I overcome these issues? As well as, how do I search for someone I can trust and be with, when I never get to go out, due to joblessness?
Submitted: 4 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  AskJason replied 4 years ago.

AskJason :

Hi, I'm Jason. I'm glad to answer your question. (My answers are intended as information and my opinion only and this is not therapy or counseling.

AskJason :

We could spend a lot of time talking about all the reasons you feel the way you do, but I don't think any of that will help you to move forward. Since you are offline, I am going to switch this Chat to the Q&A format and then provide you with an Answer.

Expert:  AskJason replied 4 years ago.
Many, many people have been cheated on. These days it is a very common scenario in a long term relationship. I'm not saying all people in long term relationships cheat or get cheated on, but it definitely happens a lot.

It is natural that this experience, or set of experiences, has left you feeling "reclusive, distrusting, and protective of your romantic heart". The key is to realize that the only way you will ever break through those feelings is to put yourself back at risk and pursue a relationship. You may get hurt again, but that is better than closing off your heart and making sure you never get hurt again but also make sure you never find love again either.

So the botXXXXX XXXXXne answer to your first question is that the way to get over these issues is to put yourself back out there emotionally and take a chance on love. There are no guarantees, but we all face the same obstacles to find that deep loving relationship that many of us are searching for. There is no magic wand that can be waved to protect yourself from being hurt again, but that's ok. You have to just gather up your courage, leave the past behind you, open your heart and mind to the possibility that there is that perfect person out there for you, and then let nature take its course.

Regarding your second question, it is very difficult to pursue women if you are broke. (By "joblessness" I presume you are implying you are short on cash due to this situation.) Dating typically costs money. Women want to be pursued and even in this day and age the man typically pays for the meals and other costs, at least early on in the relationship. At minimum, you should be prepared and able to pay your own way. If you can't, I'd have to say that dating will be tough for you no matter how you might meet women. There are ways to meet women even if you stay home all the time, via sites like for example, but again, a subscription to costs money and so will the dates you go on should you meet someone online who you like. So my best advice would be to try your best to find employment, even if it is a temporary position doing something you don't want to do forever, so you have a few bucks in your pocket and can enjoy some level of social life.

I hope my answers have helped and please remember to click the green "Accept" button. Thanks!
AskJason, Relationship Answers
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 39
Experience: B.A. Psychology
AskJason and other Relationship Specialists are ready to help you
Expert:  AskJason replied 4 years ago.
Hi Justin,

Just thought I would check in to see if you had made any headway in the dating world regarding the conversation we last had. If you have any additional questions and would like my assistance in answering them, please reply or post a new question with "For AskJason147" as the first line and it will be assigned to me. Thank you!

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
< Previous | Next >
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
  • This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!! Alex Los Angeles, CA
  • Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult. GP Hesperia, CA
  • I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion. Justin Kernersville, NC
  • Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around. Esther Woodstock, NY
  • Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know. Robin Elkton, Maryland
  • He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here. Diane Dallas, TX

Meet The Experts:

  • Kate McCoy

    Kate McCoy


    Satisfied Customers:

    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues
< Last | Next >
  • Kate McCoy's Avatar

    Kate McCoy


    Satisfied Customers:

    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues
  • Rafael M.T.Therapist's Avatar

    Rafael M.T.Therapist


    Satisfied Customers:

    MHT-MHRS-MS-MA Integral Psychotherapist & Life Coach
  • Ms Chase's Avatar

    Ms Chase

    Life Coach

    Satisfied Customers:

    Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues
  • Alicia_MSW's Avatar



    Satisfied Customers:

    Specializing in relationship/family counseling
  • Dr. Norman Brown's Avatar

    Dr. Norman Brown

    Marriage Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    Family Therapist & teacher 35+ yrs; PhD research in couples
  • Dr. L's Avatar

    Dr. L


    Satisfied Customers:

    Licensed as a Psychologist and Marriage & Family Therapist.
  • Suzanne's Avatar


    Therapist, LCSW

    Satisfied Customers:

    Experienced in treating trauma, relationship issues, co-dependency

Related Relationship Questions