Hi, I'd be glad to answer your question. (My answers are intended as information and my opinion only and this is not therapy or counseling:)
I think these are very difficult questions to answer.
It is hard for me to know what was going through her head, but obviously she was not happy and she was lying to you about many things?
Perhaps we should talk about how you are feeling now since nothing can change what she did or why she did it.
did watching what her mother did have any affect on the way our marriage played out
and why she trying to keep me strung along for so long
You had posted a $59 question and also a $10 question. Did you realize that? We are in the $10 question right now
Watching her mother may certainly have caused her stress and lead to her acting the way she did. Stringing you along is puzzling, but maybe she was just not sure what she wanted to do and what her options were so she wanted to keep everything going until she made up her mind.
no i did not know that i started the 7 day free trial
It's ok. I just mentioned it because you have three questions posted right now for all the same issue.
I see you are offline now. I will switch this to the Question & Answer mode and if you wish to follow up to any of your posted questions, I will be glad to give you the best answers I can.