I can certainly understand your concerns. Family is very important. The issue is not that you will not have family because she doesn't move. You have to be able to structure a relationship around where she lives. It may be that you feel hurt by her unwillingness to move closer which feels very hurtful. However you have to respect her wishes. There may be a reason that has nothing to do with you. In that case it will bother you more if you personalize this. Engage her in finding a relationship that includes where she is now. Your daughter will still have a grandmother if she lives where she wishes. You shouldn't let your memories of what you didn't have impact this relationship. That will be damaging for you both. Instead use the creativity that you both have to accept her wishes and make ways to be a family.
Your mother probably wants to be a family but doesn't have enough to gain by moving. People establish strong support systems, jobs, hobbies etc where they are. maybe she is scared of change.
Please press accept; this is how I am compensated
So when she isn't understanding that I can not accomodate her, what should I say?
Last question. So by just accepting it, I should just shove down the hurt I feel and move on?