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This is about a girl Ive had a crush on for a long time. Our fathers are best friends and I know her from family get-togethers. Recently, the crush took a drastic turn and Ive found myself very infatuated. Something happens when I see her face and her long brown hair falling beside it like curtains revealing a work of art and I can still hear the inflection of her voice like a choir of angels. Ive decided that I love her for some reason, and I think Ive picked up a similar indication. Im just unsure, though. I know I would give anything to be able to embrace her, but we're very different. We lack common ground in terms of interests. She watches Football. I watch Opera. She's outgoing and enjoys outing. Im reserved and enjoy staying in to enjoy a good novel. And while she seems brilliant(she is an aeronautical engineer for NASA), and maybe theres more to her that will be discovered with dating, Ive supply more thought to the couple of conversations we've had(since past get-togethers) than she does, which makes me wonder if there might be an intellectual compatability issue as well. Ive been told by many people that I overanalyze things instead of letting them happen. Maybe Krissi and I could live happily ever after. Do relationships work where there is a difference, maybe big difference between the couple? I know she would treat me right and I can be put out of the misery of lonely nights.

 



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Ive sent a couple of messages to her on facebook, from seeming indications Ive gathered from her, and am preparing to ask for her number. No dating has taken place yet.

Submitted: 368 days and 13 hours ago.
Category: Relationship
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Customer replied 368 days and 13 hours ago.

Im ready with any information you might need.

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Expert:  Santo B replied 368 days and 13 hours ago.

My name is XXXXX XXXXX X hold a Clinical Master's Degree in Social Work with a focus on Adult Mental Health. I currently provide general Life Coaching.

Hello. It sounds as though there is more of a physical connection than an emotional and intellectual connection to this person. Many times, people tend to find others attractive because of the opposite qualities that they possess. Although, she may not be much of a conversationalist just yet, you are still getting to know her. She may be shy, or just unwilling to open up because there hasn't been a formal outing (date).

Also, sometimes when beginning a new relationship/friendship, it is best to have lowered expectations. She may be nervous, and feel somewhat out of sorts. You have a good understanding of the English language, and based on your original question can use language to get your point across in a very descriptive way.

She may be simpler with words, but that does not make her any less intellectual.

I would recommend that you go and ask for her phone number. You will never know what the outcome of an evening out with her would be if you don't ask her out on a date.

I agree with you that there seems to be a slight infatuation on your part, but there is nothing wrong with that. It shows that you have great interest in her. As long as your feelings about the situation are healthy, and your infatuation doesn't become obsession.

I hope I answered your question. If you have any other questions or comments, please don't hesitate to contact me. If I have answered your question, than I respectfully XXXXX XXXXX you accept my answer. I will follow up with you and check in to see how things are going in a day or two.

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Expert:  Santo B replied 365 days and 12 hours ago.

Hello. I am just following up with you to check and see how you are doing.

Customer replied 327 days and 14 hours ago.

She never gave me a response. After years of contemplating the deepest aspects of physics, Stephen Hawking said, "Women are a complete mystery to me." Theres no telling what was going through her head. Im attractive and smart. Ill find somebody thats right for me.

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Expert:  Santo B replied 326 days and 21 hours ago.

That is the right attitude. You sound like a confident, intelligent, and level headed person. Keep a good and optimistic attitude about you and you will find the right person for you eventually.

 
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