Have Relationship Questions? Ask a Counselor for Answers ASAP
Becoming dependent almost always has its downside. It shifts the roles in the home and this causes people to have problems adjusting to such change. If you see this as a negative then this can have a negative impact on your self esteem. So you have to first address how you see your role in this relationship. That may mean that he has to address you in a way that is reassuring and positive. This reassurance can help you adjust and find positive ways to participate in this. I would speak to him about the need you have to function in this capacity and feel good about yourself. You can also find a counselor in your state by logging onto the American Psychological Association.
You should also work as a couple on communication. If you want the best reference for communication try anything in the Mars and Venus series. This covers issues such as positive communication and also contains the Rules of Fair Fighting. You can look them up to see what you and your partner are doing wrong. Strategies do not have to include yelling or arguing. the point is to settle disputes without these negative habits.
Find positive activities to do for yourself. Sometimes we don't dedicate any time to just ourselves. Schedule at least one activity each week that will make you feel rejuvenated. That time is just for you. It is important to find value by just focusing on you. You have to feel that you are worthy or no one else will.
Don't give into the negative energy that comes with being dependent. If you can be creative to earn a modest income just so you feel that you have that money was yours.
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