I really appreciate that advice. It is nice to hear that we obviously care about each other and also not to "just see how it goes" or "move on" as everyone of my male friends keeps saying. I spoke to one of "more her" friends over coffee last week and she said to carry on showing change and getting motivation in my life.
I also hate the fact people keep saying "no contact", "get on with making yourself look better" and "make her jealous". I can agree with making myself better but the no contact and jealousy I can't because it would hurt her.
I know she is worried it won't change and come back but how can I ever address that in conversation with her to say I won't?
Last questions, I promise!
If she cared so much, why end it? And if she is the sort of person not to be open about feelings how can I get her to tell me before we're back together? I think counselling is a good option, but when we're back together. It's just how I get there first!