You should make your decide based on whether you see a future with this guy. Does the relationship have enough of a foundation to build on. If it does you have to learn as a couple to communicate rather than fight. Issues shouldn't take this big blow up to be resolved. You can find my best resource in the self help aisle - the Mars and Venus series. Learn to talk problems out. He has to be willing to commit to this as well. If he resorts to defensiveness than the relationship is not going to last. It isn't foolish to want to have a healthy relationship. Don't stay in this relationship out of obligation or fear of being alone.You have to have genuine love and affection to make this last. I urge you to talk to him and see what he wants too. Your self esteem is important but this is about compatibility. If you aren't compatible than nothing else matters. Think about your options and what you want out of a relationship If you see a future then work on communication. If not you are wasting your time.
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Communication is definitely a big issue with us. I am wondering what you think of our unique living arrangements and the other issues I described.
It is okay to feel vulnerable. However this living arrangement puts trust to a huge test. You may want to be in a relationship but you can't settle. If he is less than what you deserve or want then cut your losses. Don't let your weight influence what you want in a relationship. Think about what you want and whether he fits that criteria. Self esteem should not determine whether you stay. If he is physically and geographically distant then maybe this isn't for you. He seems to be a part time boyfriend.
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Thanks Psychlady. He is geographically distant but we are in constant communication. I am a single mom and a career woman so it isnt awful not having a tremendous amount of time with him.
I think I made a mistake by letting him move in. I love him and I know he loves me and my daughter. He treats her well and takes great care of both of us when he is home. The financial arrangements are a bit unfair and grate on me sometimes.
There are definitely compatibility issues. But there is also a great deal of love, affection, humor, and fun.
But we just cant seem to talk without these big blow ups. He definitely has a quick temper. It scares me sometimes. And despite all of these issues I still cant imagine my life without him...well, at least some of the time. Sometimes I think it would be a relief to start over...
How do you know when to stay and work on things or when to cut your "losses?"