Hi Good morning.
or afternoon for you.
A very good afternoon to you.
I believe you have done nothing wrong. We are not always available when others want us to be.
You were lovely to offer the lunch option and I am saddened that she couldn't respond to that.
Yeah, exactly, I like my own space and it does not mean I have to say yes every time!
If she is upset about it then it is her problem and not mine?
I can say a white lie if I want to when I don't want to meet her?
She thinks she have the power over me? Is that right?
I mean she say things knowingly fully well that it is not nice to do in that way e.g it has to be her way rather than me - do you get me?
I might send her a text message with a warm tone that says...I am so sorry that I can't accommodate you the night you would like to stay with me, but I would love to have you for lunch. I didnt hear back from you so please let me know if you are desirous. I would love to see you. If she doesnt respond then you have done all you can
I am not going to send her another text message today as she has not responded to my offer of a lunch today.
That is since Monday!
I think that is rude for hanging on the rail not knowing the anaswer?
CORRECTION: For hanging me on the rail
ok I am okay with that too.
whatever you feel is right for you but I do agree that yo have done nothing wrong
So next time, are you saying that if a person don't reply then just delete the message and forget it but the next time I see her and if she says something about it then what shall I do?
I wonder if you dont clear this up now will you hear from them again?
Oh no, I know her very well but she is a woman with man touster
I would hate for you to lose a friendship over this and I am not sure she gets the message if you dont respond.
She gets angry when she does not get what she wants e.g no reply to my text message is considered as very rude.
I think she is upset about it.
ah I get it. :-)
I am not worried about friendship because it is her problem and she have not rights to control me to get what she wants.
correct and just because she wants you to be available doesnt mean you need to be or are.
She expects me to drop everything just for her
Once I say no then she goes on on
to try and make me feeling gulity etc
I don't like that at all
not a good space for sure and she sounds a bit entitled
What does that mean?
your feelings are valid and I am sure she is not used to people saying no since she sounds like such a force and when you do she has a bit of a tantrum
entitled: expects people to jump when she says so
You got it
I think she has to be told
because my other friends felt the same
we are on the same page. I like and admire your strength
I like simple and quiet life as I enjoy my own company
you sound like a fun person to be with...lots of spunk
Most important of all, I am a happy person and I can't please people all the time when they are not happy!
I know they enjoy my company but I can't be there for them all the time!
amen to that!
Thanks for your kind words and yes, you will find me to be fun with!
I am already finding that. stick to your gut as you have...it will not steer you wrong.
Another thing, a friend who is so close to me but he often overstay the welcome and I feel awful but like today I asked him when is he going to leave my home otherwise he would stay until so late!
He was here since Wednesday and I thought ttoo much for me because he enjoys my company but it does not mean that he can stay more to keep himself entertained!
that is absolutely correct. if you dont advocate for your needs they will just stay and stay
everyone needs their own space
He says like oh I am going home back to square one! It is making me feeling guility and I have to ignore that and throw in the bin as if he never says it!
you are not a hotel...just a great friend to be around
whats with these people?
I told him that this is not a hotel and put your place in the dishwasher!
I don't know!
They are lovely but sometimes, I have to keep my distance just to have my own space.
dont bring him room service or he will never leave.... :-)
I know that I am admired by so many but sometimes i have to ignore them
so many cant take time for themselves as they dont like their own company so I am glad you have that sense of self. keep up your great pride...I like it.
Great, thanks for that and I think there is no harm for me to be tough but polite since they will come back to me!
Yeah, be myself and I don't care what they think since I know who I am and what I am like.
whether they like me or not the door is there and is always open!
nothing wrong with setting boundaries...people protest because it may not be what they want.
I think it is selfishness and thoughtless.
ok...Ill be over in a few hours! what are you making for dinner?
I am busy!
Did you hear me laugh all the way across the pond?
Unfortunately, I am not available as I am with someone for a theatre visit.
Did I hear you laugh?
I am not too sure about the answer to that?
because I joked and said I will be over in a few hours
anyway. you are doing a great job and I commend your inner strength.
So, if someone sends me a text message and I don't reply then they get the message so I did not say anything once they ask me why I did not reply e.g I did not get your message or maybe I overlook etc
Thanks so much
I think mobile should not have been born or to get rid of unlimited texting plans as it affects people etc
if it were me I might say I got the message but I didnt know how to reply because I didnt want to be rude.
yes so many relationships are altered through texts and people dont talk anymore
I always go for the politeness...
It should be interesting what happens next in the future when mobile dies etc
I don't know! lol
the human spirit gets lost in all of it and so many incorrect assumptions are made
I totally agree with you.
I say to a friend once saying that I have to switch my phone off to give my mind a rest so that I can enjoy humanity stuff!
They were like oh mobile is my bible
I thought totally pathetic
i can live without it for a week!
Me too! so keep being true to who you are...you sound lovely and enjoy the theater.
Thanks and have a great day
Bye for now
bye for now. come back anytime.