How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask Elliott, LPCC, NCC Your Own Question

Elliott, LPCC, NCC
Elliott, LPCC, NCC, Psychotherapist
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 7662
Experience:  35 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a college professor.
Type Your Relationship Question Here...
Elliott, LPCC, NCC is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

Has guy lost interest? for the past 2 months i have ben seeing

Customer Question

Has guy lost interest?
for the past 2 months i have ben seeing this guy. We have met 3 times as we live approx 3-4 hrs apart. We hit it off instantly after finding each via online dating. At the beginning he was very attentive and kind as we both shared and listened to each other's concerns about things and lots of laughter also. He was like a real friend and we could talk about anything as conversation was very free and natural. On the 3rd time we arranged to spend the day together and it was a week where many people were cancelling things that they had arranged to do with me. The morning of me meeting this guy , he rang and cancelled, stying that his nephews car had broken down on road and he was the only one available on a Sunday to repair it. He said that he was gutted at having to ring me as he was looking forward to the day, however he did not say "sorry". He was in my area 2 days later and we did meet for about an hr which was lovely. He explained to me that he was very unhappy at work and having difficutly with his ex partner regarding money. It was evident on his face how miserable he was. Follwoing this the text messages and calls wer fewer and I found myself initiating the contact, but he always did respond and our phone calls were always about an hour in lenght. We made each oher laugh! This Fri gone he asked what I was doing the weekend and I stated "nothing". He said that he would meet me in the city and we would spend the evening together. Yesterday morning he cancelled and appeared to be in a very angry state, stating that his boss had called him into work on a saturday for incomplete work he had not done on Friday evening. he bos told him that "his mind was not on the job for the past few weeks and if he didn't finish off the work properly today (sat) then he would sack him, hence canecelling to meet with me. I did ask him if he wanted to finish with me and he said "definetly not" and that he wished "I belived him", however the trust for me has broke. I old him that I was not contacting him any further and if he wanted to see me he knows where I am. I told him that I was annoyed and disppointed as this was the 2nd time in 2 weeks and I was not putting up with again. I told him that I will not be hurt by him and he said that he understood this. He said "the next time I am speaking to you, I will be with you". I replied fine and wished him well. He did not say he was sorry but said that he feels "reallyshit for doing this to me". At this point in my heart I beleve it's finished and I won't hear from him however what do you think? Many thanks. Ann.
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Elliott, LPCC, NCC replied 2 years ago.
Seeking expert testimony is a sign of strength. A personal relationship with a caring professional is proven clinically effective

Dear XXXXX,

This man may or may not be sincere. However, he is unreliable, and does not have what it takes to manage his own life successfully, and he certainly does not have the wherewithall to put the proper effort into maintaining a relationship.

I am certain that you have found wonderful qualities within him, but you would be well advised to let him go.

You may hear from him again, and you may allow yourself to be taken in again. You will not have a happy time of this, however. This man has much too much emotional and mental baggage.

I wish you well and hope you can move forward in a positive way.

Warm regards,

Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
Elliott, LPCC, NCC, Psychotherapist
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 7662
Experience: 35 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a college professor.
Elliott, LPCC, NCC and other Relationship Specialists are ready to help you
Customer: replied 2 years ago.

Dear Elliott,

 

Many thanks for your honest reply.

 

Even though I informed him that I would not make contact I did send him a text message stating "A, I'm sorry if I put you under pressure about meeting up. I genuinely hope things improve for you". There has been no reply as I usually received a response pretty quickly.

 

I belive my guy feeling put me in good stead this time and that he was losing interest or else he genuinley could not give me the time to get to know me because of the difficutlies he is having. He really was a lovely person.

 

 

Expert:  Elliott, LPCC, NCC replied 2 years ago.
THIS ANSWER IS LOCKED!
You can view this answer by clicking here to Register or Login and paying $3.
If you've already paid for this answer, simply Login.
Expert:  Elliott, LPCC, NCC replied 2 years ago.
Dear Ann,

I trust that you are starting to move forward with your life. There is much to accomplish and experience and enjoy.

Blessings to you.

Elliott

JustAnswer in the News:

 
 
 
Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.
 
 
 

What Customers are Saying:

 
 
 
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
< Last | Next >
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
  • This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!! Alex Los Angeles, CA
  • Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult. GP Hesperia, CA
  • I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion. Justin Kernersville, NC
  • Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around. Esther Woodstock, NY
  • Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know. Robin Elkton, Maryland
  • He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here. Diane Dallas, TX
 
 
 

Meet The Experts:

 
 
 
  • Dear Debra

    Advice Columnist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1719
    I have been an Advice columnist for 14 years. My column is published weekly in local newpapers.
< Last | Next >
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DE/deedeeham/2011-1-24_51523_408.64x64.JPG Dear Debra's Avatar

    Dear Debra

    Advice Columnist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1719
    I have been an Advice columnist for 14 years. My column is published weekly in local newpapers.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/formybunch/2010-12-06_191055_img_0975.jpg Kate McCoy's Avatar

    Kate McCoy

    Counselor

    Satisfied Customers:

    1235
    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/RE/resolutions66/2011-1-17_05728_IMG8202smilingeditedforJustAnswer.64x64.jpg Elliott, LPCC, NCC's Avatar

    Elliott, LPCC, NCC

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1215
    35 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a college professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/CO/CoachJenK/2012-3-9_31019_Jen.64x64.jpg Coach Jen K.'s Avatar

    Coach Jen K.

    LMSW, CPC

    Satisfied Customers:

    726
    Providing the utmost care and support.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/IN/intrapsyc.com/2012-2-20_161928_RGMTPicturex5002012.64x64.png Rafael M.T.Therapist's Avatar

    Rafael M.T.Therapist

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    549
    MHT-MHRS-MS-MA Integral Psychotherapist & Life Coach
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/HU/hungryjack20/IMG_1281_edit_2.64x64.jpg Dr. L's Avatar

    Dr. L

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    349
    Licensed as a Psychologist and Marriage & Family Therapist.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/SU/suzmsw/2011-9-2_184634_Thisone.64x64.JPG Suzanne's Avatar

    Suzanne

    Therapist, LCSW

    Satisfied Customers:

    338
    Experienced in treating trauma, relationship issues, co-dependency