I am sorry. My question was not clear enough. Should couples go together, or in domestic abuse cases is it best to have seporate counciling until the abuse has terminated?
Yes, i understand your answer however I don't agree. How can there be couples counseling until the abusive spouse first gets their problem dealt with.
The abuser must work on accepting that the things he does are never acceptable under any circumstances. Often these men will blame their behaviors on others or their environment.
Furthermore the danger that would exist as the abused spouse might have retaliation for her thoughts, feeling or potentially exposing the truth in a light that "makes him look" like the bad guy.
I was meeting with a Family Pastor today in Red Deer Alberta trying to alter their program for Marriages because my wife and I have survived an abusive marriage and saw disastrous potential in couples like us getting help together.
Red Deer Alberta has the highest rate of Family Violence in Canada and my wife and I have begun a ministry focused on Outreach to Men who abuse in the hopes they will get help before it goes any further.