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I like your spunk. What is stopping you from saying exactly what you wrote:
You are an immature, indecisive idiot. Get your shit together.
Absolutely, you are not his diary! You are also not his conscience....not his puppet and so forth.
So..you write that you want to be a good friend...but what does that mean? Does a good friend let you babble nonsense and not call you on it? Does a good friend let you play with relationship roulette and not challenge you?
If the shoe were on the other foot - what would you want from this friend?
Seems to me that you might owe this friend a good swift kick in the rear end. Seems that he's wearing you out...is that what you want from this friendship? Sure...we all have tough times and need a shoulder to cry on and a listening ear. But...is he in that kind of crisis? Doesn't sound like it.
I see you have entered chat. I'll wait to see how you respond to my post.
Okay I think you're right, maybe I just need to show him some tough love. Because right now he is just all over the place and maybe I just need to help him get grounded
I'm actually talking to him right now...I told him that he needs to grow up and stop being a little kid (that's the paraphrased version) and he said I hurt his feelings and logged off
But I guess he'll talk to me again in a day or three
We'll see how it goes. *sigh*
Thanks for your advice.
LOL to his reply about hurt feelings and logging off....duh...what does that tell you about his level of maturity?!
Yup - tough love is probably what he needs most at this point. He has some thinking to do and you're hand holding could be enabling poor behavior on his part...not that's what you were attempting to do...but that's how it could be perceived on his part.
Yeah I think I should have told him what I really thought sooner...I was so afraid of hurting his feelings though. Well I hope that what I said will sink in...I know initially he's not going to want to talk to me...he's kind of a brat so his reaction didn't really surprise me. lol. But thanks though. Will let you know how it goes. :)
Great...you take care now!
You too. Thanks