Hello, thank for joining me. Please forgive any typos as I get very immersed in my work with you and sometimes my brain goes faster than my fingers.
It sounds like he is just not interested in paying attention to your feelings are giving you the respect that you deserve. Talking with him doesn't seem to help and so I am wondering where you are with your desire for a next step.
We are both too old for a divorce but I must admit, he has not been responsive to many of my requests. I would like to have him feel the panic and worry that a person goes through under my circumstances last night so that he will call next time. His son was also very concerned. I would like him to empathize and respect my request. I know I can't make a person feel anything, we don't get to control anyone else's feelings. I don't think he is cheating, yet I do remain open to the possibility. He runs his own business and keeps his own hours. He often works late, and the business requires it. But FRIDAY?
The responses are going though each time not sure why scroll up a bit so you can see my last response
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I am with you and waiting. I responded to your first question.
there must be some glitches happening because I have responded back can you scroll up and see them if not I will begin again
I have scrolled up and down. I just see "The responses are going through each time not sure why scroll up a bit. . . ."
Ok let me begin again. sorry for the difficulties. not sure why they are happening
have you suggested counseling and will he go? I think I know the answer but wanted to ask. Your feelings and concerns are very valid.
Yes, counseling has been suggested. He will go if I remind him numerous times that we have an appointment. Actually, I feel like his mother sometimes. Feel that it's OK if he "forgets" his appointment with the counselor, I'll go myself. I guess you could say he drives me to shrink.
LOL. you are funny. It sounds a bit confusing...he can run a business and cannot remember an appointment with you? Very disrespectful I would give him one reminder and then go on your own and work on your won space and how you want this to play out.
One more question, I'm thinking about going to a charming little town for an overnight by myself and just not telling him. Give him a dose of his own medicine. Would rather stay home this weekend, but if it helps him to understand, it would be worth it.
That has to be something you are comfortable doing. He sounds so self involved that I don't know that he would get the message but rather feel more entitled to do as he pleases and disregard you. I do think an overnight for a recharge is a good idea but maybe let him know and let him miss you a bit. Thoughts?
Actually, your suggestion fits us and I think I'll try it. Self-involved, I'm glad you came up with that term. In my mind I call it something else. Yours is much better. Thank you very much. Helpful, Coach Jen.
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