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Hello, thank for joining me. Please forgive any typos as I get very immersed in my work with you and sometimes my brain goes faster than my fingers.
In order to delve into her past you went so far as to speak with the woman of the husband with whom she had an affair? did she tell you about the affair or you did your own research.
she told me all about it
Ok and then why did you feel the need or desire to snoop further.?
Are you with me?
tell me what your thoughts are? I imagine how painful this is for you
it is very painful because i love her very much and i keep thinking about it
And I think because she has had an affair it raised your worries and mistrust and caused you to dig deeper.
But, we need to be sensitive about her feelings as well as this was part of her past and even while she told you about it you still went further behind her back. that can be a painful experience and I know that you are sorry and are hurting for what you did.
yes in a way i do trust her and she admits to having an affair and she regrets everything shes done. i am sorry
I do thinks some space and time will do both of you well and letting her know how you feel and how sorry you are for your actions can go a long way especially if you let her see your vulnerability around it and how hearing it raised your anxieties for your relationship with her.
she is really cut up about it
I hear your pain and I am so sorry you are in it. we all make some mistakes at times and it is what we do with them that counts and you really do sound like you understand where you went wrong and I can see you understand her position as well.
I know that she is and her feelings are valid.
i am giving her space and time at the moment but she is still talking to me via text
I commend you for looking at your behavior and trying to work through this with her.
Well all of that is a good sign and it tells you that she still loves you but needs some time to repair her trust in you.
What about going to a life coach together to get back on track? short term that can really be helpful.
i think i will carry on with what we are doing and see where it goes i want her back so badly she knows this
Ok. Keep reassuring her as I am sure you have. Come back anytime if you need more support and if you found our time together please click accept and provide feedback too.