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hello iam online now for half an hour but you offline anyway tomorow saterday around 10.30 am i will be online hopefuly we can chat and help me with this issue...as need an advice if i saw my friend again and asked me if i still interested so he arrange meeting the other guy what should i say...i dont want anyother guy i like him.....so to understand more this friend i met him 6 month ago ..we are from different countries and diff. language...and when i moved he was so interested and helping me ..and felt he likes me ..but suddenly like things change...yes when we met most time we go quiet like we dont know what to say...and he always say iam areally good person and trsut me alot but ..we meet like once aweek...as he has other friends ...and when i see him i get tense in agood way like alot wanna say to him yet dont know what to say or how like worry to open up iam emotional person...i wish i can open up and be direct and tell him i do like him......other day he said only thing missing in his life is love and told him open your heart then..he replyed its open..but kinda worry or forgot how it should be or like maybe something better coming...( to me he is like afriad of relation) am i right...please help me..what to do...if i reveal my feeling to him...am i going to lose his friendship ?...or do men sense if women like them..and if he is interested he should approach ?
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HII...ok no problem..but not even asmall hint or small adivce you can give me
Honestly, when I work with customers here I need to really spend some time fully understanding their situation and question. Would you like to work with me on Sunday morning or should I send your question back out for experts currently answering questions?
sunday morning be fine
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the expert are online now can answer me or also have to wait
iam in europe its like midnight for me now
You don't pay for a question here unless you are completely satisfied with an answer. Why not try another expert for now. If you're not satisfied with the answer you can work with me on Sunday. Does that make sense?
yes i can try that
I can actually forward your question directly to another expert.
ok sound good
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Your answer is very difficult to understand but I always urge people to be honest in sharing their feelings. It serves no purpose to hide your feelings and hope that the guy says something first. The best way to approach any situation that involves emotions is to be honest. This gives the guy a chance to react in a way where you know where you stand. Sometimes being friends is just a front for something that would be much more exciting. I suggest that you let him know that you want to be more than friends. Then you know what you are facing. If he returns your feelings you know something positive can come from this. If he doesn't then you still have a friendship
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well thank you for the advice but i need to know from what he did what it means if you read what i wrote
OK thats true but why he would wait amonth to tell me this in face while he jus t could tell me via phone or email why it has to be in face...and when he saw me i got quiet and jsut couldntreply i dont know if he sense something and he start make jokes and say help me find someone...i know he is ateaser but is there any slight he likes me...coz he could tke the chance and asked me then coz i know he is ready for love he said it.......and he doesnt know this guy 9 his femal friend does) while the 3 of us been having coffee the other guy saw me so he carrying the message but yet iam sure it means either testing me or not interested in meand he always call me in my nickname...but he is sort of shy like me...been awhile for him to be in arelation...i dont know iam totaly lost and not reading the signes
I need to ask onemore thing...since that incident i havent any chance talk to him and he is like avoiding me...3 days ago i sawhim briefly and asked him if we can do smth that day he said maybe cofee..and he didnt call..i sent him amessage told him i wanted to see him sort of to reconcile..coz the way we became is wrong.......and i do care..thats why iam trying....after awhile i got areply from him...saying....Relaxe.iam drunk.love u. ... thats all i got from him and then he send saying going to sleep and it was only 6pm...since then he wondnt reply to my sms and i even try to call but he didnt reply...did he really mean it or regreting it..or just being shy and not sure..he makes me more and more confused..why to say love me..when he never said anything like that...please i would like to hear your opinion what shall i do....should i try to call him....or avoide seeing him
Hello again sorry for late reply ....i been very down lately...and i feel i lost my friend totaly...as been month we didnt go out...though once we wew suppose to have acoffee then cancled for he got work last minute and never rescedul it...yet after awhile i saw hm accidently and asked me how iam doing and said exactly...IAM not gonna say will call u and these things coz i DO HAVE to call you !!! and do smth very soon and thats been aweek and he never made this call.....i know he is concern about his work alot but that doesnt stop him from seeing his other friends..i feel or my thinking he feel shy coz lately not being call and feel bad...or he doesn like me and doesnt know how to say or what to do ..coz for him it matters as think i have avery very XXXX XXfe and that scares him ..coz my sister is married to arich person and have afantasy life though right from star told him its my sister life not MINE...i have anormal life !!! this point i feel it scares him coz many times he use to say he is stress out if saw my sister or husband coz of ME........................would like to hear your opinion