Russ0114 : Hello and thank you for choosing just answer, I look forward to assisting you.
Russ0114 : It sounds to me like he has not forgiven you and based on what you shared, it sounds like he has had trust issues from the beginning if he started recording you prior to him finding out about the infidelity.
Russ0114 : Hi there.
yes he started the bizarre behavior before anything happened
but when it did - it really pushed him over the edge
Russ0114 : It probably highlighted all of his insecurities
He gets so verbally abusive though that he has pushed me to breaking points many times so I'm not sure if I can continue this or if there is any way to get him to stop acting this way
Russ0114 : Sadly, I don't think he'll change and things may actually get more intense.
I'm not allowed to visit anyone or talk to anyone without him being there or being in the room
I used to be very active in classes and visiting friends and haven't been able to talk to friends or do anything since being with him
Russ0114 : And that's no way to live. If he gets anymore jealous or insecure, he may take things further and become violent with you if he gets enraged or feels like he can't control you which is what he's doing.
should I confront him with the recorder I found or just ask him to leave - he lives with me and lives basically off me as he makes only about 1/2 of what I do
Russ0114 : I don't think confronting him will make things better and may actually make things worse.
Russ0114 : Prior to asking him to leave, I would strongly suggest trying to talk to your friends and family to develop a safety plan in case he does try to become violent with you.
ok - I will do that - they are very aware of the situation and have urged me to end the relationship but I thought things would change
I know the cheating did not help but I had a male friend for over 14 years and ended up trying to compensate I think - I have never did anything like this before
Russ0114 : Unfortunately I don't see him getting better especially if these behaviors started well before anything ever happened. It sounds like he's gotten progressively worse and you don't want him to take things further because of his jealousy.
Russ0114 : You're very welcome and I wish you the best.