Are you able to frame a question that you would like to ask me so that I'll be in a better position to help you?
I'll pause here and await your response.
What exactly is your question?
Should I walk away from the marriage?
That's hard for anyone to answer but you. I would need to now ask you questions to know your feelings to enable you to answer that question. Certainly, it seems that you cannot trust him. Most people would want to leave someone who lies the way he does. Are you comfortable with making the decision to walk away from him?
Have you thought through what it means for you to walk away? I well understand that you would want to do this. He is NOT to be trusted.
In myself I feel strong enough to be on my own and to control my own destiny, but I have two big hurdles, One is of course the children who are 12 and 9 they would be absolutley heartbroken and secondarly is the commitment `i made to god in the face of marriage. My husband isn't a regilous person and I'm not a regular church goer but I have a strong sence of duty. I think I should als mention that currently my husband is working away on another island as he had to find another job quickly. I truly don't believe he is a bad man and I know he loves us dearly but he just can't be honest and upfront about financies.