It sounds like you want two different things. You are very close to pushing him away He has told you to ease the pressure and used the word friendship. In either gender friendship is what it implies. It is not a relationship without a commitment. It is two people being friends and supporting each other. When a guy says any friendship he means nothing romantic. There may be some touching here and there but he is saying he is hurt and scared. If you push for more he will run. He has identified what is scaring him and that is the frequent contact for instance that is part of a relationship. I fear that you are trying to make a relationship out of something that it isn't. You need to let him heal. If you can do that as a friend great. You have to play by his rules. Just be close and put the romantic ideas away just for a little while.
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