You have outlined a very positive relationship with mutual communication. When you have a problem where you are concerned about something he may have done that communication has to be front and center. You don't want to assume that this profiles are to meet new women but I am not sure if I understand the specifics of what they are. If these are from a time when you weren't together then you have nothing to be concerned about. You say yourself the emails are 2 months old. If they are from a time when you were together then you have to find a way to bring this up. You are not going to be happy unless you know so you have to talk about this. If he is this great guy he will be glad to discuss with you the purpose behind this profile if any. Don't be scared to ask the hard questions because you have to be clear yourself.
As far as the relationship you have to decide where you are headed. If this is to rent him space then so be it. But be careful because this changes the relationship and not usually in a good way. It is almost like lending money. The dynamic right now is that you are on equal footing. I would find a situation that works for him but doesn't change the relationship. Your goal now should be to reach a new level but not one that makes him responsible to you.
If you both have children then you should be very careful. But if the elements are there like communication and trust then you are on the right track
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We been seeing each other since August 8th through date site that another friend has been using for quite a while well Mum's older friend. He seems like mr perfect exactly what my boys and I need. I dont want to accuse him of anything as my life is finally getting on track after me moving back to town where my boys father resides. My partner does his very best to please all of us and is so giving, very helpful, considerate, thoughtful. I wonder should I have the attiude that he is devoted to me cause it really seems that way. He has already bought XMAS presents for my boys and says that all the children get along so really well. His daughter asks when can she play with my boys next. He always considers me in everything. He always he wants to make sure i am happy and content. He said unless he was comfortable I would not have been introduced to his daughter so soon. He says she really likes me and we have bonded.
He seems so content with us and says he enjoys waking up with me the closeness and would rather have a meal with me that by himself. He thanks me for everything I do for him like the cake I made for his daughters bday and family get together with his family. He says they really like me. I have a thought of not making or causing any issues between us and taking my anxiety/mood herbal tablets like I do. I take them cause I recently had an IUD Mirena inserted and we were very honest about that and I have not had a partner since November 2009. My husband and I finally got divorced about 4 months ago. Yes everyone can have friends. I do have male friends and have been given their phone number in the past Mobile number (An old school friend and neighbour) also chat on facebook with and old mate who is a male. Yes I know that people have friends of the opposite sex. I have never felt so content within myself and my life as I do now. I feel like "Where has my new partner been all this time". I feel so lucky to be with him like a privillege and an honor. He has a very respectable job. No tattoos same size hands as me and about as tall as each other. He is also very handsome. Always clean shaven, well dressed and groomed. He is a very likeable man with a great sense of humour. We get along so famously. I dont want to control his friends like my husband did- controlled my friends, money and my whole life, verbally abusive. My new partner knows of my past with him and has brought virtually every thing to the table regarding the mother of his daughter. I dont want to dictate who he is friends with. I have been in a very controlling relationship. I feel blessed to be with my partner. I am 34 and he is 45 and he says age, who cares. My family and friends are not one bit concerned about age. They say my happiness counts. He is no longer on the same dating site we were on and we both signed out of that at the same time that is quite a while ago now.
I have alopecia where patches of hair fall out and have never had anyone partner be accepting of this so I am blessed that he is accepting of this totally and only asked me about this once. He is not concerned. I said stress causes it and he said of cause it does and you've had enough of that. I have week on week off from my boys also. I dont need any worries and dont want to cause issues or seem controlling or push this wonderful man away. He is a really giving loving man and is a really great father to his daughter age 5 and bonds very well with my boys and he sleeps over and has breakfast when I have my boys in my care.
I have alopecia where patches of hair fall out and have never had anyone partner be accepting of this so I am blessed that he is accepting of this totally and only asked me about this once. He is not concerned. I said stress causes it and he said of cause it does and you've had enough of that. I have week on week off from my boys also. I dont need any worries and dont want to cause issues or seem controlling or push this wonderful man away. He is a really giving loving man and is a really great father to his daughter age 5 and bonds very well with my boys and he sleeps over and has breakfast when I have my boys in my care. We have same size hands and almost same height and can ride each others mountain bikes cause of same size frames. He is always clean shaven, no tattoos, short tidy hair. He is very handsome with an awesome sense of humour. He always considers my feelings, he brought me flowers the other night cause he said I deserved it due to an emotionally stressful week due to final mediations between my ex husband and I. He rings me mostly cause says i need my money for my boys. I am also receiving Centrelink payments. He does not discourage me from ringing him however it is through his work mobile phone cause his private one is getting fixed. He did recive a message from lady last night from 11:38am saying you probably got company at the moment but glad to see your happy again. This was a work phone. Maybe they are just friends from some time ago. I feel that there is noone else out there like him. He has given me no reason well signals that there are any problems at all. We are both at the same part of life.
If things appear that they are perfect then consider that. Next time just ask for a compromise. For instance you could have asked that if his friends call they do so at a reasonable hour. Relationships are about compromise so don't be afraid to ask for one.
Going to bed. Hope you found this helpful
I said he does not need to take over as a fathers role and does not need to pay my rent for me. Do things sound okay to you. He was on date site tonight briefly I see after I left his place it was the site where I see people have sent him thanks for being a friend and have a wonderful night or have a great Thursday and these were sent as tagged messages (like greetings). Or message saying even though we are miles apart I hardly ever get on line but friends are important. They are nice picture messages. He does say he really appreciates me. Things might be okay and I may seem too insecure if I ask. I dont want to say who he can be friends with. My ex husband was very much controlling and verbally abusive. Do you think it sounds like I have to be quite wary or cautious of my new partner. He is really great with children. I do not definitely want to seem controlling. I do not want to seem accusing. He has Xmas presents for the boys already too. I know we do enjoy each others company. You would think that if he had no genuine interest in us that he wouldnt continue to pursue me. He also likes to surprise me and do things at the spur of the moment.