If you really want to remain together you have to allow a professional to sort this. you have tried on your own and it isn't working. You have insecurities but your lifestyles don't match. His absence feeds your insecurities. You can take several routes for this. One is to go to counseling on your own so that you can explore why you feel insecure and how to communicate this to him. Find a marriage counselor that is a better fit. Sometimes counselors have no impact because there just isn't that connection that you need to work together. Google etherapy and ecounseling so that you can participate in therapy in your livingroom so that you can take the inconvenience out of it. Learn some communication skills including the Rules of Fair Fighting in Mars and Venus Together Forever. With one of these solutions you may find ways to compromise and his need to avoid can be eliminated.
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