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Okay, so Ive managed to find myself in a really awkward situation

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Okay, so I've managed to find myself in a really awkward situation with a girl. Here it goes. I started seeing this girl about three months ago, the whole time I felt like we were really into each other, everyone told me how much she was into me including her twin sister whom she lives with. We hung out quite a bit during the three months and did a lot of things together and all seemed to be going well. We stated having sex about a month and a half into the relationship. The sex was really good and she wanted to do it quite often. We were still just seeing each other though and not officially "together" even though we were having sex. She had gotten out a relationship of two years about 3 months before we met so we both agreed that we would take it slow and build towards a more serious relationship. Her birthday came along and I took her out for a nice dinner at a fancy restaurant and took her out for a really nice evening and thats when things started to go south. The very next day she stated talking to some other guy and suddenly seemed to become totally dissinterested in me from that point forward. She's been hanging out with this other guy now and seems to be keeping me on her back burner now. She called me to invite me over to her place the next day after her birthday to hang out and this other guy was there too. I was in total shock that she would do this. I hadn't done anything wrong and I was never nothing but good to her and now she throws this guy in my face like she purposely wanted to hurt me to my face. This has been going on for about three weeks now and she still calls me even though shes all over this guy now. It seems that she has really disregaurded my feelings altogether but for some reason still wants to keep me around. Why would somebody do this? I can't for the life of me figure out what the hell happened. What is wrong with her and why would she treat me like this? Is she just a bad person all around? Should I run away from this girl as far as my feet will take me? Did I do something wrong? Why would a girl do something like this? I feel like she really playing around with my head. I could really use some advice on this one, I've never dealt with a girl like this before. Thank you.
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  psychlady replied 5 years ago.

It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. So that leave very few options. Maybe she thinks of him as a friend so she wasn't uncomfortable with the two of you being in the same place. Maybe it strokes her ego to have more than one guy at a time. She is the only one who knows the reason for this. Don't think of her as a bad person until you find out the reason for her decisions. If this feels hurtful then you should tell her so. She may not be aware that this bothers you. If she is playing mind games or she doesn't see your point then I would consider moving on. You don't need someone who is not considerate of your feelings. I would wait until I had a long talk with her. If she is truly playing games then you don't need someone like that. Don't tolerate someone who is playing both of you. See where it goes.


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