You have to consider his timing as being part of his lifestyle. He isn't going to behave in the monogamous way that you do. Swingers take sex or intimacy very lightly because they have a very casual view of sex and physical contact. As far as being a swinger you are free to do anything you want but don't participate to make him happy. Do it because it is genuinely appealing to you. It's okay to experiment. But don't do anything just to please someone else.. If you want to try it make sure it is something you want to do. There is nothing wrong with taking chances. If you think this is something that is his idea rather than yours then let this relationship go and find someone more conducive to how you want to live. If you choose this relationship then you are going to have to be a swinger. He isn't going to compromise his lifestyle. I would consider this choice carefully. There is a host of sexually transmitted diseases now.
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