The best way to resolve any barrier is to find a professional to help the two of you over the barrier. It doesn't mean your marriage is in trouble. You can talk about the source of the problem and how to resolve it. The other way is through positive communication. The more you talk about your fears the less power they have over you. If you are jealous or resentful then talk about that. But you have to be brutally honest to get past it. It may be uncomfortable saying I am jealous of the fact that you tried hard to have a child and you won't do that now. That makes me angry. If you interact in a way where he gets to address that then it will be less of a problem. But you have to accept that he is being genuine. It isn't going to change unless you are honest with each other and resolve this over time. As far as boring that can be addressed together too. Try things that are different, get a book on sexual positions, have date nights that lead to intimacy, make an effort to be romantic. The possibilities are endless.
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